What's Up With Society?

Another theory of mine...

There are so many trends in our society and the media that come so fast, it's hard to keep up!

1. First we had the whole being lesbian thing. Examples: the Britney & Madonna kiss on TV, songs about being lesbian like Lady Gaga's "Poker Face." The song is actually about Lady Gaga saying that when she's with a man, she is really thinking of a woman and keeps on a poker face. And then the song "I Kissed A Girl" by Katy Perry. Did you know Katy Perry started out as a Christian singer at first? And then Lindsay Lohan went lesbian on us, aside from becoming lesbian, girl has issues period. And also that whole Tila Tequila reality show about choosing a man OR woman for her dating life. Not gonna lie, but uhhh...I kept up with that show my sophomore year. haha it was intriguing and had its moments. But yeahhhhhh anways, point and case.

2. Second, the whole Indian thing was becoming popular. Bombay par-tayyyyyyyyyy. Slumdog Millionaire came out, GREAT MOVIE btw, and Indian girls are really pretty. Indian guys however....there are some but it's not common....at all. Anyways, Jai Ho was on the radio and even the Pussycat Dolls sang a version of it and in the music the girl dresses like an Indian even though she's not, but she really passes off as it. For our Senior banquet, ever year I push the Bombay party as the theme for it but i'm always shot down. However last year, they made the mistake of asking me to point lead it....muwahhaha and I had our whole Edge class dance do a Jai Ho performance, which was AMAZING BTW.

3. Third, cougars!!! Hot moms, and cougars. There are shows and dang, I don't know. Cougars are just really in at the moment! There's a show that Courtney Cox does called The Cougar, it's a series not a reality show but it's not very good, which made me really sad because I thought there was a lot of potential there. But the show just isn't really well written. Anyways, there was also a cougars convention in SF this summer. http://blogs.sfweekly.com/thesnitch/2009/08/hello_ladies_fur_flies_at_bay.php?page=1 As you can see these pictures, the women are not that hot for cougars but silicon up the wahoooooooooo for sure. Maybe the economy is bad and boys are looking for sugar mamas but there is a growing demand for cougars and there's a good amount too!

In conclusion, according to all these fads the hottest thing right now should be an Indian woman who is a cougar who goes for younger girls. Hm...........oh society, what have you done to us?

Because Love Is Good

I love fat stuffed animals

I love waking up to a room full of sunshine

I love finding out that I have all my pairs of sock in the laundry

I love earrings

I love starving for a day then eating all you can eat Krn BBQ for dinner with ice cream

I love my friends

I love it when people laugh at my jokes

I love baking egg tarts for people I like

I love trying new things

I love surprises (good ones)

I love finding out something was cheaper than you thought at the register

I love hugs (from certain people)

I love juice & pmt & thai iced teas

I love sleeping in the car when someones driving

I love scenic drives with good music

I love spontaneity

I love deepening my relationships

I love girly alcoholic drinks

I love the smell of fresh laundry

I love good conversations

I love cheap hangouts

I love it when people are more awkward than me

I love it when people try to make me smile

I love it when I brighten someone's day

I love honesty and genuineness

& last but definitely not the least...

I love sleep. So goodnight. going to work on my paper later at the time crunch, sighs.

You Do What You Gotta Do

Do you have a friend who studies last minute the night before and gets an A? The friend who plays all day and then starts to cram at 2AM and gets that A? Or the the who parties all night, wakes up at 5AM and writes their 15 page essay and somehow manages to get an A-? And don't you hate that friend? It sucks.

Now would you rather work really hard and earn an A,

or barely put any effort, do it last minute and earn an A?

Majority of us would choose the latter.

Why is that?

What is so horrible about the idea of putting so much of yourself into something in hopes to achieve great results? But we all rather take the easy route and hope to reap the same benefits. The thing is we're lazy. We rather work half as hard and earn just as much.

But that's not how it should work, and actually that's not how the world works.

Maybe we're afraid of failure. We're afraid to put yourself out there and failing because you end up with nothing and you're hurt. And you might look dumb. But if you were to just half ass something and not get the desirable results, then you see it as well deserved and you didn't really risk anything so it's no big deal.

But if you were to put in the effort and excelled at it, wouldn't you putting in all that effort make it so much more worthy? Would you feel so much more accomplished? And if you tried and failed, doesn't it say something about your character that you tried and gave it your all?

We, and certainly I, half ass a lot of things. I rather play it safe. That needs to end. I want to tap into that passion where I am not afraid to put myself out there. Where I hunger for it and am willing to work hard for it, sweat for it. We're meant to do some things in this world with all our heart, mind, body & soul. We need to start taking risks, and risk ourselves instead of half ass-ing things to get what we want. We need to start earning it.

Share what it is that you want right now.

Show me that you want it.

Labels Are For Soup Cans

A girl wearing a bathing suit at the beach is normal.

A girl wearing a bra and undies in public is not normal & slutty.

Now the thing is, they are both wearing just about the same amount. However we've labeled bathing suits as normal beach wear and bra and undies as things you wear under your clothes. If you were to wear your bra and underwear at the beach, even though it's the same amount you're showing, it'd be weird. The thing is once we've label something to be the norm, that's where it stays. & i'm not trying to say that bra & undies should be normal wear (sorry boys) but i'm just trying to use this example to lead into something. Labeling leads into imposed restrictions.

With that being said, I dislike being labeled. I don't like people making judgments on who they think I am and therefore holding restrictions on my identity and only seeing me in a certain view. Some people may first meet me and label me as a girly girl, but i'm not a girly girl. And some may get to know me and see me as a total tomboy, but i'm not a total tomboy. I'm both. I'm a lot of things. I absolutely hate it also when a person tells me they think I was a cheerleader in high school (not to diss any cheerleaders, bc honestly, I would have been down to try out but I wasn't down to pay the expensive dues) but I played basketball. I like proving people wrong and surprising them. I feel that once you label some one as something you are limiting their abilities. Self fulfilling prophecy. Let's say you label a guy as a jock, and the stereotypical jock is good at sports, kind of dumb and a player. What if he listens to people identifiying him as a jock so much that he just focuses on sports, never studies because he doesn't see the point since he's good at sports and no one expects brains out of him, and he only plays and breaks girls hearts because he's identified as a player and should only play around and never settle down so he misses out on getting to fall in love. We shouldn't be quick on judgments for each other. It's different observing someone and seeing who they are, versus being quick to judge and setting them up to follow through with your expectations.

When I have kids, I don't want to label them and force them to play the piano because that's what the typical Asian kid does, but instead I want to give them the opportunities to try things and see what they like. I want them to be more than just one thing, I want them to feel like they aren't limited to what they are good at but living life because it's about exploring and taking chances.

I have a great amount freedom, and I like trying new things and dislike being restricted. This is why i'm usually down for anything (not drugs though, that's a different point). We are meant for so much more than being labeled and seen in only one view. I'd like to think that i'm capable of many things and refuse to be limited. Today at church, Dave spoke on the topic of unleashing beauty. And he's right in the fact, that we have so much within us that we need to just let go and tap in into ourselves and let out the beauty within us. We are capable of so much, so don't label people, we are so much more than to be labeled just like a soup can.

btw, if you couldn't tell, I have a midterm tomorrow and i'm procrastinating. sigh* & I feel like shit because I think I got sick. Okay gotta cram and hopefully sleep early tonight to rest my body.

The Stars Are Bright Tonight

i love just who you are

i ain't gonna try to change ya

you are a shooting star

thats why you are my favorite

that part of the song makes me really happy

i see a lot of shooting stars :)

but i am the biggest shooting star, HEHE

okay just kidding, :( I am lame and am in need of sleep.

Meet F.A.T

Meet F.A.T. & i'm not going to tell you what it stands for cause.......eh there's no need. We are a set of 3 made of a Korean, Japanese & Chinese (it's probably not hard to guess which is which lol). But they are 2 of my really good friends. We've known each other since Freshman year when Ji & I were in the same small group (B.E.A.C.H.I.E.S) and Jason was in our brother small group (S.A.T.A.N). Acronyms all up in here for sure. haha They are a huge blessing in my life and i'm thankful for good company.

So Jason is Japanese but is wayyyyyy into Korean culture, like he knows some of the kpop dance moves shizz and Ji is Korean but is wayyyyyyy into the Japanese culture and can speak more Japanese than Jason. And I...am Chinese. hahaha Yea, I don't know those two need to be swapped. Anyways, I love spending time with them because we get each other and the three of us just mesh well and work.

Interesting Facts Quiz

Who do you think.............

1. Plays the most video games, i.e. DOTA, Left 4 Dead, Call of Duty?

2. Watches the most Korean dramas?

3. Had braces all throughout college till beginning of Senior year college?

4. Is the hairiest?

5. Watches anime?

6. Built their own computer?

7. Has finished a whole birthday cake by themself?

8. Has a tattoo?
9. One foot swells when dancing?

10. Dislikes feet?

11. Loves smirnoff ices?

Correct answers:

1. Ji

2. Tiffany

3. Jason

4. Jason

5. Ji

6. Ji

7. Tiffany
8. Ji

9. Jason

10. Tiffany

11. Jason & Tiffany

Now wasn't that fun?! haha gosh, i'm cheesy........btw you prob could figure out who was the gamer by looking at her headphone set. LOL

So I get a text from Ji asking if I want to run a 5k or 10k marathon. My first initial thought was OH HELL NO!!!!!!!! The only 5k I wanna see is 5k in my bank account, thas wassup. But she was really excited about the idea, training for it, and having a goal, yadda yadda all that good shiz. I don't know about running the whole thing but it'd be nice to say I accomplished a marathon in my life. But i'd mainly want to do this cause I want to support her and help her be accountable. So I guess i'm down............haha Jason is up for it and we're all going to be doing this together. Ji said apparently there's marathons at night where you run in the streets with music and dancers at each down point, and i'm definitely down for that. haha I really feel that this decision is going to come back and bite me in the ass though *sigh* Time to start using my jump rope more now as pre game training. hahaha

Anyone wanna volunteer that night to drive/wheelchair me out wherever my body collapses? thanks! <3

Reconnect

In high school, I used to find comfort in seeing my friends online really late at night when I was online late studying or doing whatever. It brought me comfort to know that I wasn't alone, especially during the frustrating times of studying. I could complain to them and we would bitch over things in a fun matter as in the "this sucks so much that there's no need for vacuum cleaners bc it sucked all the dirt in the world already" kind not the emo "eff the world!!!!! I want to go to a dark, dark hole where cute animals go to die and cry" kind. Now i've noticed that when you stay up late on AIM, old friends or friends you don't normally talk to IM you. It's a pleasant surprise when i'm studying and these random IM boxes pop up. I guess when you're all up for your own reasons, we like to connect with one another. We enjoy the company of one another, even when it's just online. And as the nights get later & later, your inhibitions also get lower & lower and you're more real with each other. Sometimes you have silly conversations and if you're lucky, you get a real good conversation once in awhile. Or I also like the short IM conversations that basically consist of them telling you to go to sleep because they care for your well being. It's nice to talk to a friend you usually don't talk to or haven't talked to in awhile. There's a reconnection.

I like that.